Well, Christmas just happened. And I heard it was a white one back in PA! Part of me feels like it didn’t even happen, other than the fact that there are holiday pictures to look at on facebook and I had many people from back home wishing me merry Christmas! But it didn’t feel like Christmas. My Christmas day was much different from what I am used to Christmas day being like. Not only that, but my Christmas day was much different from what I expected it to be like too. I’ll give you the rundown.
I woke up Christmas morning expecting to go to the zoo with Ryan and Bethany Umble, their kids, and two house helpers. I was SO excited about it because I don’t remember the last time I was at a real zoo and I thought that since I am in Cambodia, there might be some cool animals that zoos in the US don’t typically have. So I was pumped to go. And then about a half hour after I woke up, I started feeling nauseous. Uh-oh. So I kept going about my normal schedule, hoping it would go away part way through the morning, since that is what has typically happened when I woke up nauseous other times. So I biked to the Umbles’ house and by that time I was ready to throw-up, but couldn’t, even when I tried. Eventually a little baby one came, but it didn’t really help me feel all that better.
So I stayed home. The Umbles left and I went and laid down on their sofa. Even that was a welcome relief. See I am used to laying on the sofa in my family room at home, eating buttered toast (if anything), and drinking tea with honey when I am sick. I haven’t had that since being here. In the Khmer culture, if someone gets sick, it is a sign that they are weak and need more strength. So they feed that person a lot of food. That’s what they do here. I really want to enter into Khmer culture, but there’s a problem with that. Usually when I am nauseous even the thought of food makes me almost vomit. So eating two whole bowls of fried rice, although tasty, is not my idea of helpful when I am sick. The few times I have been sick here in Cambodia, I have just laid on my bed in my room, avoiding any food and being really bored. And then when I go downstairs in order to not be completely lame by staying by myself all day, I am bombarded with lots of food and noisy children. Sigh.
So being sick on Christmas day at the Umbles’ house was a real blessing for me. I laid on the sofa, made myself some buttered toast once I started feeling better, and also made some Chai tea (that’s my favorite Christmas flavor!). Just like at home. It was lovely. By late-morning I was feeling better so I ventured over to the Umbles’ keyboard. I think this was my favorite part of the day. They have a keyboard/piano, but I have never played it because there are always children running around and I like to play when I’m alone. And so here I was…alone. So I played. And if I can be honest for a brief moment, I just about cried when I touched those keys. It was like a little feeling of coming home. And that’s when I realized in a new way that piano is like therapy for me. So I played and sang to Jesus, belting out songs of worship. And then I wrote. I had time to write songs in a place where I was alone and where there was a keyboard. God knew what I needed that day.
I slept a little in the afternoon and woke up to a text from Bethany saying they were going to be home from the zoo in 5 minutes. Okay, here’s the thing; I like naps, but I’m never sure if they are going to be a good idea or a bad idea. Sometimes I wake up feeling refreshed and sometimes I wake up feeling frustrated and moody. Not really sure why. Unfortunately, this was one of those naps when I woke up feeling frustrated and moody. I put on a happy face for the Umbles, but inside I felt this gnawing negativity. Then I got a call from Vanna and after some miscommunication, I rushed home to get changed for a Christmas dinner we were going to that evening, which left me more frustrated. Once again, my expectations were very different from the reality.
What I had been told (or what I was under the impression the evening would be like) is that we (my host family and I and my host dad’s sister Linda) would be going over to the house of an American friend of my host dad to eat supper with his family. I pictured a very nice, quiet, half American/half Khmer Christmas meal where the adults would talk around a table and the kids would play together on their own. Instead, we walked to Boeurn’s friend’s house, where I found myself surrounded by teenage kids and 7 or 8 tables set up for a banquet looking meal. As it turns out, Boeurn’s friend is a single man who runs an orphanage with about 30 kids and each year he invites his friends over and they serve this huge meal to everyone. Not exactly what I was expecting.
And I was flustered. Flustered and suddenly very irritated. I was not in the mood to talk to people…especially Khmer people who I didn’t know. I still wasn’t feeling the greatest and had really been looking forward to a quiet relaxing evening. Well, I have really been talking to God a lot more lately and working at changing my attitude when I’m upset instead of dwelling in my anger, so I talked to Jesus about how I was feeling. I said “Jesus, I’m really not happy right now and this is not what I wanted this night to be like. I really just want to make up some excuse about me not feeling well and walk back home. But this is where I am right now and I want to enjoy it. Please help me change my attitude.” About an hour later, I was talking with a co-worker of Boeurn and I realized that I was enjoying myself. My anger and irritation had disappeared and I was really enjoying having a conversation with this girl (her English was very good).
And I gave thanks.
I enjoyed the rest of the night immensely and as I reflected back on my day as I was journaling that night, I wrote this,
“I had to think back to last year or even the beginning of being in Cambodia and I realized if this had happened then, I would have wallowed in my frustration and stayed negative. But I’m learning! It always makes me so excited when I realize that! Thank You Jesus for transforming my heart to be more like Yours. It was a good Christmas. Sometimes not doing what you expect to is a good thing. Schedules…psh.“